Our special needs kids have a special place in our hearts. Each one is precious and unique, placed in our families as a vessel of God’s grace.
At the same time, our special kids bring special challenges that push us beyond what we thought (or think) we can handle. And the life we would design for ourselves.
Sometimes it’s easier to disengage and take an unplanned siesta. I bet you can identify with me.
My Son, Your Story
After more or less coasting with our autistic son, Matthew, for the last several years, things are changing. We need to step up our involvement and help him get ready for life after school.
There are days, honestly, where I simply don’t feel like it.
Just recently, I told my wife about an email exchange with the attorney helping us secure guardianship for Matthew. When it became clear that I was frustrated with all the time it was taking, and had missed an important detail, she expressed concern.
‘I’m worried you’re going to just do what’s expedient, instead of what’s best for Matthew.’
You could have heard a pin drop in my heart. She was right. God is calling me to slow down, engage and make some sacrifices for our son. But it’s hard, and selfishly I don’t always want to.
I’m not sure what challenges you’re facing with your special needs child. Each of our kids is so different.
And each of us is so different. Some of you, like me, may sense that God is calling you to get back in the game. Some of you are giving all you can, but feel exhausted and tempted to give up or step back.
Staying engaged and trusting God with our special needs kids for the long haul can feel like running a race we haven’t really trained for. It’s a challenge for at least three reasons.