So... you want to date - and marry - a godly woman someday. But are you really ready for that?
It's not enough to just go to church, have your devotions and think it'll all work out. You need a solid, biblical plan.
Watch the video above to find out why I decided to create a course that helps Christian guys know they're ready to date, lead and marry a godly woman. And, avoid all the heartache that comes with just hoping it'll all work out.
Trading junk food for steak
Bryan Stoudt's course, "How To Prepare for Marriage" pulls young men away from the junk food that the church so often offers and gives them the thick steak of a disciplined, courageous life grounded in the gospel and Scripture. I highly recommend this course.
paul e. miller // Author of A Praying Life & J-Curve: Dying and Rising with Jesus in Everyday Life
Do your upcoming marriage a big favor
I seriously wish this course was around when Kimm and I tied the knot 38 years ago, but I’m glad it’s available to you now. Do your upcoming marriage a big favor and enroll today! Let Bryan guide you through this biblical, practical course.
dave harvey // Author Of When Sinners Say I Do & I Still Do // RevDaveHarvey.Com
The Usual Way Christian Guys Get Ready For Dating & Marriage Doesn't Work
Are you taking the 'it'll all work out' approach?
Most Christian guys want to marry a godly woman someday. If you're reading this, you're probably one of them.
You dream about what it would be like to live life with a woman who shares your commitment to Christ. Someone you can encourage to pursue him. Someone who will challenge you to do the same.
You think about what it would be like to serve your neighbors and a world in need. To enjoy hobbies and common interests together. To raise a family that honors God. And - let's be honest - be physically intimate with.
All of these are good, legitimate desires that honor God when they're pursued with love for him and others.
A godly wife and great marriage are some of God's greatest gifts this side of heaven.
As Proverbs puts it, 'An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.' (31:10-11)
Going to church + doing your devotions + wishful thinking = bad idea.
But, too often Christian guys think getting ready for dating and marriage will 'just happen'. That they can just go to church, do their devotions and - somehow - when the time is right, they'll meet 'The One', get married, and live happily ever after. [Dance music plays as champagne sprays, and confetti falls all around you.]
I'm not questioning their motives. Or the value of faithfully attending church or doing devotions. These are all important, even essential, parts of what it means to follow Jesus.
But they are not (nearly) enough to prepare you for dating or marriage.
You don't have to start from square one like I did.
I found this out the hard way when I started dating my wife, Sharon.
In the past, we had a great friendship. We were able to talk for hours about everything - the Lord, people we were praying for, and our passion for professional football. #GoEagles
We had an amazing chemistry. We both loved the Lord and serving others.
It was all so easy, so I figured that would just continue after we started dating. I mean, why wouldn't it?
But I was wrong.
All of a sudden conversations became more sensitive. We had a lot more disagreements. And I started to realize I had no idea how to provide leadership - or what I was really doing - in our relationship.
I was unprepared, and I hadn't even known it.
It took me (and my wife) 3 really challenging years of marriage - and lots of biblical counseling - to turn things around.
And, with God's amazing grace and patience, we did.
It's far from perfect, but today people tell us we have a great marriage. And we have the privilege of providing premarital and marriage counseling and coaching to lots of young couples. Couples that continue to thrive well after their wedding.
But many other couples don't fare so well. In fact, with just a little effort, I thought of over 30 other Christian marriages I know personally that didn't make it.
Many other couples don't end up getting married, but experience a ton of disappointment and heartache along the way. Stuff that stays with them, and makes it hard to have confidence that the next relationship can be different.
I don't want that for you!
I want to give you a huge head start by sharing what God has taught me. (Often the hard way.) What I would tell my younger self if I could do it all over again.
And, what has worked well for guys I've had the privilege of mentoring in 20 years of ministry.
The bottom line: you're probably far less prepared for dating, and a godly, healthy marriage, than you think. That's where How To Prepare For Marriage comes in.
Few things in life are more important than preparing for marriage
Few things in life are more important than preparing for marriage. The amount of marriage counseling I perform as a pastor reveals that many people have not prepared well enough. There is no online course that I recommend more highly than Bryan's. You will be blessed by his biblical approach, his heart for you, and his concern for your marriage to be everything God desires.
Scott LaPierre // Pastor & Author, Marriage God's Way // scottlapierre.org
If you want to get ready for dating and marriage, seek support from a coach
As a coach to leaders, I work with guys who want great relationships but don’t know what it takes. Too many men try to go it alone only to realize (too late!) that they should have sought support from someone like Bryan, who is a gifted and effective coach. If you want healthy dating and marriage relationships, Bryan can help.
chad hall // Master Certified Coach; President & Co-Founder, Coach Approach Ministries
How To Prepare For Marriage: A Solid, Biblical Approach.
The How To Prepare For Marriage online course is divided into 4 main modules of content (26 video lessons), with a worksheet for each lesson.
Module 1: Pursue God Above All Else
This module will show you why pursuing God - and the gospel - first is absolutely critical and how to practically do it so that you pursue dating on a Rock Solid foundation: God Himself.
Module 2: Become A Godly Man
There's so much confusion today about what it means to be a man. Let alone a godly man. This module will provide a clear definition of biblical manhood, identify its 3 key responsibilities, and show you how to live them out.
Module 3: Engage In Biblical Community
Engaging in biblical community is the best way to prepare for the smaller community of marriage. This module explores why community is essential, 2 places we must pursue it, and how to overcome 5 common obstacles that get in our way.
Module 4: Overcome Sexual Sin & Pursue Purity
This module will explore the massive problem of sexual sin, put our sexuality in its bigger biblical context, and show you how to experience lasting victory in this all-important area. Plus, how to view godly women as our sisters created in God's image, rather than as objects or 'potentials'.
Bryan Stoudt is a pastor, certified coach and blogger. Over twenty years of ministry, he has focused on mentoring and discipling younger men, in addition to couples counseling with his wife, Sharon.
He has a blog helping Christians pursue Christ, and prepare for - and enjoy - marriages that glorify God, serve others, and bring them joy. He has written for several other sites, including Desiring God.
This course hits on a serious foundational epidemic that is taking place with guys of my generation (and beyond). I love the module on lust and pursuing purity, and how it sets out actionable steps in an objective manner.
I am really impressed with this course. It has all the content a single guy needs. I especially liked how it shows that God is the supreme source of our happiness and satisfaction, and the section on how we view women was eye-opening for me.
Preparing to be a husband, and having a healthy spiritual life, is no simple feat. The work you are doing here is going to help a lot of good men become great men.
Here's What You Get When You Buy The How To Prepare For Marriage Course
How To Prepare For Marriage is an online course. After your purchase, you will be able to log onto an online dashboard, where you can access the course material, which consists of:
With over 25 video lessons, you'll cover the four key pillars of preparing successfully for dating and a healthy, godly marriage.
The worksheets help you connect the lessons with your life so that you actually make progress.
Interaction With Me
Get feedback specific to the challenges and ideas that come up for you as you go throughout the course.
So, What Does It Cost?
During this special introductory period, you can get it at a discount for the prices below. There's a 30-day money-back guarantee, too, so you can try it out risk-free.
course + 1 coaching session
COURSE + COACHING PACKAGE
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What How To Prepare For Marriage
Is - And Is Not
I want to set the right expectations for this course so you're not disappointed. How To Prepare For Marriage is not your usual, run-of-the-mill online course.
This course is NOT...
This course IS...
If you're a Christian guy who...
- is single or in a dating relationship
- wants to get ready to date, lead and marry a godly woman, and
- willing to trust in Christ and put in the hard work
... this course is for you!
Frequently Asked Questions
How long will I have access to the course?
After you purchase the course, you'll have permanent (lifetime) access to all the videos and worksheets.
How can I get in touch with you about questions that come up?
There will be a comments section below each lesson, and I'll do my very best to answer each one. It's also a great place for you to interact with others going through the course. If you want to pursue something more deeply, you can reach out for a private coaching session (extra cost).
I'm not from the West. Will this course be relevant for me?
Obviously, every culture is different. While I'm most familiar with the US and Western countries, the bible's principles apply equally to all cultures. If you take the course, and are having a hard time figuring out how to apply a principle to your culture, just reach out to me and we'll talk it through.
Is there a money back guarantee?
Yes, if you don't like the course, just email me within 30 days of your purchase for a full refund.
What can I expect from you in a coaching session?
In each 45-minute coaching session, we'll start by exploring an issue (related to some aspect of the course) you'd like to focus on, then figure out which part of it you'd like to go deeper on. Next, we'll look at options for addressing your issue, then finish by narrowing those options down into specific actions you'd like to take so you reach your goals.
Is this course a good fit for me?
If you're a Christian guy (single or in a dating relationship, but not yet engaged or married) who'd like to know you're ready for dating and a healthy marriage - and you're ready to do the work with God's help - then yes, it will be a good fit for you. If not, you can get your money back in full for 30 days.
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