In just a few days, we’ll say goodbye to 2019. Before we do, nearly half of us will make New Year’s Resolutions. We want this year to be better than the last. But, we know we need to do more than think happy thoughts. What’s on your list? In some ways, research shows, it doesn’t […]
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‘Well, I’m in a relationship now.’ After over 15 years in ministry to students and young professionals, my wife and I often hear this when we ask how they’re doing. Our first response is to rejoice, remembering how thrilled we were on our first date. Very few things in life are more exciting than a […]
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After more than 20 years of marriage, my wife and I know that we need to keep working on our marriage. Not that it’s bad… it isn’t. By God’s grace, we’re doing pretty well. But if we want our marriage to stay healthy and keep growing, we can’t just coast and tread water. As I think about […]
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Giving thanks to God is one of the most important things anyone can do. But it doesn’t come naturally if we’re honest. Just yesterday, for example, I caught myself grousing continually over every little thing that didn’t go my way. Silly things like dropping something off my desk, getting stopped at a traffic light, and someone […]
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Masturbation. Christians don’t talk about it nearly enough. When we do, the conversation usually turns toward this ultimate question: ‘Is masturbation a sin – or not?’ Sometimes, the question is sincere. Coming from a heart that deeply wants to honor God, a heart that’s struggling with a confusing, practical issue. Other times, the questioner is hoping […]
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‘Our marriage is way beyond that point.’ It was one of those joking-not-joking comments where you know a point is being made, but before you can respond, the conversation moves along. Our friend meant that her marriage was past the place where physical (let alone spiritual intimacy) was still alive and well. She and her husband, though […]
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When it comes to dating, lots of Christian guys wonder about the role physical appearance and godly character should play in who they decide to pursue. In other words, do looks matter? More specifically, they ask if it’s wise to pursue a godly woman they do not find physically attractive in the hopes that they will develop […]
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Let me start by asking you a tough question. How connected do you feel to your spouse? It may take you a few minutes to answer, but be honest. Really honest. Because your response could be the start of a much-needed awakening, or a serious missed opportunity. Truth is, for most of us busyness is hurting our […]
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You know you’re too busy. That it’s not really sustainable. And, instead of pursuing intimacy in your marriage, your busyness is having the opposite effect. You feel disconnected from each other. Maybe it’s been awhile since you did something special for your spouse. Or, you don’t have any energy to pour into date nights even when […]
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Have you ever known you should say ‘no’ something, but found yourself (reluctantly) saying ‘yes’? Maybe it was a meeting. Or, coffee with someone that wasn’t a great use of the time God has given you. Or maybe it was joining a board, or serving as a volunteer in an organization that isn’t a good fit […]
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